Setting boundaries is an occupational necessity. The beginning of a new teaching semester requires drawing the line early. I have one class that is a special condensed course of full-time employees. This special class was added to my schedule unexpectedly. I had to take a second look at all the lines that I normally draw and evaluate if they will work in this new context.
Boundaries Law #6 “Evaluation” helps us take a second look.
Hurt is temporary, harm is permanent. Sometimes people don’t appreciate the boundaries we set because it causes a disadvantage to them. When we look at the bigger picture, we can see that temporary discomfort yields to a higher purpose. “Setting boundaries is difficult because it requires decisions-making and confrontation, which in turn may cause pain to someone you love.” As time progresses we have to take a second look at our boundaries to evaluate to what extent they are still necessary.
New Habit #6: I will evaluate the effects of my boundaries on others.
My special class was very vocal about what they need. I listened. I took a second look at where I normally draw my boundaries to determine if they are necessary in this situation for this circumstance. The bite-sized piece of wisdom I learned from this chapter was “We need confrontation and truth from others to grow.”
Setting boundaries is an occupational necessity AND as I continue to grow in my profession I can embrace push-backs as an opportunity to grow. I am inspired to experiment this semester to evaluate if I need to take a second look.
New Year, New Habits!